Friends & Family

How to help a grieving family immediately after their loss:

  • Be there for the family
  • Organize a meal train
  • Gift cards for meals or groceries
  • Freezer meals
  • Offer to go grocery shopping for them
  • If sending flowers or planters, provide something they can put in a future garden in memory of their child.
  • A book on child loss/grief
  • Donations in the child’s name
  • Donate to the family to fund a funeral/memorial for the child
  • Take care of pets and other children
  • Add the important dates to remember the family: due dates, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, etc.

How to help a grieving family a few months after their loss:

  • Never be afraid to talk about their child
    • “If you know someone who has lost a child, and you’re afraid to mention their child because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died—you’re not reminding them. They didn’t forget they died.  What you’re reminding them of is that you remembered that they lived, and that is a great gift.”


  • Say their child’s name
  • Ask how the parents are doing
  • Donate in the child’s name
  • Offer to do something in memory of their child i.e. help build a garden, run a 5K, etc.
  • Remember the important/hard days.